My Approach

In each session, I’ll ensure you feel at ease and can get to the heart of what you want to change.

1197602899Whatever challenge you face, we’ll start here…

What story are you telling yourself about the current situation?

We all have a “narrator” in our head, making sense of our life as we live it. Evaluating those stories for truth is often a first step in counseling.

For example, you may have told yourself repeatedly, “I have trouble saying ‘no.’” In therapy, you’ll learn how to reflect on the same situation differently. Instead, you might say, “I’m learning to find opportunities to practice maintaining boundaries, and I’m committed to working on it.”

Or, instead of “I’m a people pleaser,” you’ll learn to say, “Today, I am observing my body and pausing before responding to others’ requests.”

That said, telling ourselves a new story is not enough.

Anyone can tell you a new story. To believe it enough to live it out, we must take action, creating a “felt experience” that forms a concrete memory.

In therapy, you’ll learn to trust your new stories because you’ll experience them yourself.

2033689913Sometimes, the only way out is through.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of forces keeping you from taking that action.

There’s avoidance and distraction.

There’s the compulsion to (try to) change other people and situations.

There’s the hesitation in asking others for what you need.

There’s focusing on the wrong things.

None of these will move you forward. You have to take a deep dive into your own stuff to get to a new place.

You have to be willing to meet your own needs.

To do that, you have to focus on what you can control.

And what you can control is how you respond to any situation and your thoughts and feelings about it.

The bad news: That’s all we can do. The good news: That’s enough!

2055565847I’m here as your accountability partner.

We all develop automatic responses to our environment. It’s like our mind has given us a shortcut.

But sometimes, that automatic response stops serving us. It takes a lot of awareness and intentionality to realize when that happens and go on to make a change.

But when you have someone to help you notice how you respond to the world, it improves your accuracy at targeting change and accelerates your progress.

When the path gets rocky, I’ll be there for you.

Learning from “failures”…

When you’re on your own, it’s easy to get discouraged when the going gets hard or you stumble. It’s just a fact: None of us always gets it right. But what’s important to remember is that each of these “failures” informs your future success. I’ll help you bear that in mind throughout your journey.

Accepting your thoughts and feelings…

Emotions are organic; we’re not always responsible for what shows up. Thoughts can be like that, too. Together, we’ll learn to accept whatever shows up for you with curiosity… and WITHOUT judgment, criticism, or avoidance.

Committing to what matters most…

You’ll learn to live while keeping your values front and center. Decide what kind of person you want to be in response to any situation. Live out the values that will define your present and future self.

Taking action to change your life…

Talking about change is not enough. And insight feels great for 30 seconds, but it doesn’t mean anything without action. Adopting new habits requires recognizing old patterns, noticing what happens in your body and mind just before acting on the old habit, and inserting a pause. You can then consider what else is possible and why it matters.

It’s time to do something!

You’re here because you’re ready for a change and take action to make it happen.

We often commit to organizations, life partners, family, and friends, but some of the most impactful commitments are the ones we make to ourselves.

I will fully support you in this commitment!

You don’t have to go it alone. Call today to get started with changing your life: (704) 741-0692.